self-esteem...

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This is a self-esteem blog that I have found, it talks about how the writer of the blog  thought he was a great person because everyone liked him and was nice to him, but he always had this doubt in him. This man had a best friend that he wanted to ask out because he liked her so much but he could never find the words to say it. After a night of spending time with her he found out that's when his self-esteem was low. He just thought it was because he was a nice guy and put every one's needs ahead of his own. 

This blog makes me feel sad because they man didn't know he had low self-esteem until a night that changed him for the rest of his life. After that night he went and looked up people with self-esteem issues and how they over came it for more than three years. This man had no idea he suffered from low self-esteem. This man has out together a 7 step program for himself to over come low self-esteem. Step (1.) Create your identity and seek your purpose in life. (2.) Own your fear and seek to embrace it. (3.)
Build and maintain inner motivation. (4.) Live with integrity at all times, hide nothing. (5.) Create your status and remove the need for approval from others. (6.) Seek feedback and develop genuine curiosity in others. (7.)Test and improve for life. 

After this man followed all these steps he didn't feel like he had low self-esteem anymore. He was more comfortable to do things for the first time. He use to envy others and there confidence to be able to do things that he was to scared to do but now he he doesn't wish to swap lives with anyone. He is pleased with what he did and wouldnt take any part of it back. 

My self-esteem before reading this article or blog was low. I'm a very shy person around people I don't know but I'm also very protective of people I care about so others would call me some what of a brat. But when it comes to trying new things I'm shy and dont want to do it, I'm slow at doing things im not comfortable with. But after reading this blog it made me understand that if I don't try new things I'm not going to be comfortable in trying anything new. I might grow old all alone without accomplishing anything that I've never done. 

After reading this blog and seeing the things this man went trough and seeing all the steps he took to get to where he is now. It makes me want to try and accomplish those steps and see where it takes me in my future. Low self-esteem gets me down a lot and after reading this blog it makes me want to try something new and something that's not what I'm use to. 

when I become a parent

When I become a parent I want my child/ children to come to me when they feel sad or are upset about something. I want them to know they can talk to me about anything. I may make mistakes but I want them to realize that it's okay that it happens. I want them to understand that life doesn't always go the exact way we want it to. I want them to know that it's okay to be whoever you want to be and not let people change you because you're different from them. When I have children I will always be there when they need me even when they are out of my house. I will always protect my children no matter how old they are they will always be my babies. They will be the center of my life. They will be the light of my darkness.

appreciation

I want my mother to know that no matter how many times I tell her I hate her. I really don't she has done so much for me and my brothers. I want to tell her how I feel about her but every time I try I can never say the right words. So I'm going to say it here. I appreciate her in every way a daughter can. She's always been there for me when I needed her. We may fight ( a lot ) but she's always going to be my number one role model. Growing up even now, my mother still tells me "I'm not your friend, I'm your mother." I never fully understood that because don't you always want your mother to be your friend? But now I do understand it, my mother will always love me and be my friend but there are moments that she needs to make choices that puts her in the place of being my mother. And I love her for that. One day I hope to have a better relationship with my mother but for now I'm doing the best I can with what I have been given.

music

The kind of music I listen to most people would turn the radio to a different station or just shut it off. But the moral of the lyrics explain my life and what I go through on a daily basis. It speaks to me in many ways that a person can't. I love my kind of music and just because I listen to it you shouldn't judge me. I don't judge others on their music and I never will.

stressful things

To me it seems stress is in my everyday life. Everywhere I look there's something that stresse's me out. My mother, my family, my chores, just the littlest things stress me out. I have ways of calming myself down but I don't stay that way for very long before something stresses me out again. Music, and animals are my passions. I love to listen to music and make up random chords and just mix sounds together to make something cool. To me it soothes the soul and calms me down because for me it's an escape away from the world. Animals are the same way, I love to take care of animals or just spend time with them. For my job when I grow up I want to become a rescue that takes care of many kinds of animals.

10 things

10 things I'm thankful for... 


10.) I'm thankful for the friends I've made through out my life. 
9.) I'm thankful for my mother for always staying strong in the hardest times
8.) I'm thankful for a roof over my head to keep me safe
7.) I'm thankful for the food I'm able to eat that keeps me going
6.) I'm thankful for the love and support I get from my family everyday
5.) I'm thankful for the sun rising in the sky everyday
4.) I'm thankful for the moon shinning bright in the sky at night
3.) I'm thankful for the clothes on my back
2.) I'm thankful for the shoes on my feet
1.) I'm thankful for my mother for bringing me into this hard and challenging world

Math

In my consumer math class when we are supposed to be doing math, they play around with mirrors.  This class helps me learn some strange things. It teaches me about my teachers kids likes and dislikes, she explains how she takes care of her kids and how they react to it. Most of our class is talking about our teachers kids because nobody wants to do math. Sometimes I like it but than again I want to learn about math.

Fate

Fate always happens when we least expect it. When I moved to Altoona Iowa we lived with my step father. He was an amazing man he took in a women and three kids and loved us like we were his own. Than after two years fate took his life. He found out he had cancer and it was so hard on us because he just turned 40 he had so much life ahead of him and fate took that away from him. He passed away on Valentine's day 5 years ago now. I miss him so much that sometimes its hard to bare. Fate can hand you some really bad things but we have to learn to live through it.

Goal

My one major goal that I want to accomplish before I end up dieing is, get through college and become a vet-tech, own my own "ranch" and take care of sick animals. (all kinds)

The goals I need to accomplish to become any of that is to graduate high school with a good GPA and amazing grades. I would need to get accepted into a great college that will help me learn to become a vet-tech and get amazing grades in college to graduate that. I would have to get a job in the field of a vet-tech and save up money to get my "ranch" and start with some animals that I will be familiar with like a horse a cat and a dog. Than I would have to get a website set up explaining what is it that I do and how people can find where I live. I would have to get the word out to people around me so they can tell other people. I picked this goal for myself because I love to help animals of all kinds and I hate to see them get turned down because people think they don't have a chance to live.

what if..

You're heading for a divorce...

~How would you settle property, child custody, divorce costs?

     -If I was getting a divorce I would make sure I would have custody of the children and let their father see them every weekend and, I would try and get along with the father as best as I could just for the children. I would try and have their father agree that we sell the house and live in different houses but split the cost of the money we get out of the house being sold.

• Single mother

~How will you cope emotionally and financially?

     - If I was a single mother with children I would find a great paying job that would give me reasonable hours. If I couldn't find a job like that i would get the next best paying job I can find. I would buy an apartment that was cheap enough that I can pay the monthly bill. I would never neglect my children to work more hours I would spend all my extra time with them that i could. A conflict that could happen is not being able to get a job that will pay enough to support me and my children.

• Elderly parents need to move in with you.

~What conflicts and adjustments will arise?

      -If I had to have my mother or father move in with me and live for a long amount of time I would probably be very unhappy. I would have to buy more food to feed everyone in the house. My bills would go up a lot more from what they already would be. My family might get into a lot of disagreements and try and have people pick sides and than everyone would be mad.

• You just remarried.

~How will family discipline be handled? What name do you expect the children to call you? Where should you live? How should you divide physical space?

     -If I ever got remarried and the other spouse had children I would ask him or the ex wife/husband how they would handle their child if they did something that was not permitted for them to do. I would expect the children to call me by my own name until they were comfortable to call me mom or step-mom but if they are never comfortable with it that would be fine for me. I would ask all the children if they would like to move to a new house and if not I would talk to all the children about me moving in with the other spouse. If the house we lived in was limited on space I would pare up the children girl/girl boy/boy and as close to age as I could and hope for the best.

love

Love, a four letter word people say they know very well. They don't. There are many forms of love mother-children, family-friends, grandparents-grandkids, father-children, aunts-nephews, uncles-nieces, husband-wife, etc. Most think when someone dies or leaves that their loves is broken, sometimes it is if you let it be that way but love can live on if you chose to live on. I've lost many people in my life family and friends, but the love I have for them has never left it is still with me this this day and always will be until I die. My point I this post is that love is love no matter what way it is being used. If you love someone let them see  how much and never stop loving them ever. You will regret it in the long run.

follow me

I wanted to follow the parents that I have because i want to be like them as a mother and love my children with a passion like none other. I think I connect with them because they've been through a lot with having twins and dealing with their daily routine and work. I love the way they have set up their blogs and always update their page with information about their kids, and how they live their lives. I wish I could become a parent like them someday.

"happy" after

My best friend has had the most stable relationship I could ever think of. They have a strong foundation they know when they've done something wrong and say their sorry for it. They have the best communication skills that a couple should have if they really want the relationship to work out for them. My friend never brings up past things that they have fought about because she thinks it's bad to bring the past back into the present and it'll just ruin things. When they do have a argument they make sure it's never in front of anyone or their girls because they don't want their daughter's to see them fighting.

"happy" before

The couple that I think has a good relationship is my best friend Macy Parker and her fiancée Josh Linburg. I believe they have a good relationship because they always talk things out and are always there for each other and they never fight unless it's about something important. They always have days where they hang out with their friends and family with out the other. they believe spending time together all day long would ruin a relationship. They have their moments where they want to beat the other up for doing something stupid but they always walk away and cool down before they come back and talk things out with one another. Josh and Macy share the life of a baby girl and Macy has another daughter that Josh has taken on as his own. He makes a great father and she makes a great mother. They always find time apart and together. They truly are the happiest couple I know.

my life

My name is Danielle Earnhart, some say I'm related to the race car driver but I'm not 100% sure that I am. I'm 17 years old I'm a senior at Centerville High School. I've been accepted into a college and my life seems like its just beginning. for as long as I could remember I always moved around and never stayed in one place for more than one year. but since I've moved to Centerville I've been here for three years now and I'm glad my mom finally settled down to one place I've made many friends and I count most of them as my family. I love it this way.

life at centerville high school

When I first came to Centerville High School I was going into my 10th grade year. A new school and new people, something I was use to by now. You'd think for as many times as I've moved around I shouldn't have butterflies in my stomach, but for me I always did. I hated being the new kid. Everyone want's to know everything about you and I just wanted left alone. That first year I kept to myself unless I had to sit there and talk to people, there was this one guy I really liked talking to because he was always nice to me and we became friends. I broke on of my rules. We didn't get to close though because I didn't want the pain of making a friend and than having to leave again. I can't deal with that. I hate that feeling because its like leaving a piece of me behind me every time I leave a town or house. But than I realize were staying in the same house until I graduate and that made me happy I got to open up and be myself again. I made many friends I got into many arguments and fights but most of all i met the most amazing best friend in my life. My boyfriend Miguel. So life for me isn't that bad school wise but at home? Well that's a new story entirely.

rules of surviving the world alone.

Hi, I'm Danielle Earnhart. I've moved to many different towns in Iowa and in Oklahoma. I've lost many friends and close people to me. For me it was hard because I couldn't get close to anyone for the fear of moving around to a new place again, but I've learned to cope. I never get attached so I never hurt anyone. I have 5 rules I follow while still in school. 1. don't get to close to anyone no matter what. 2. never fall in love. 3. do great in school. 4. make as little friends as possible. 5. no sports. I've lived by these rules my entire life since I've started to move around. At first I thought it was cool but now that I'm in high school I hate moving, I hate being the new kid all the time, I hate how everyone wants to become friends or start drama or just plain irritate me just because I'm the new kid. I'm 17 and since I was a sophomore in high school my mom has found a house and I've been here in Centerville Iowa since than. I don't mind it here but its not my favorite place to be. I haven't made any friends in the fear that I'm going to move soon. But that was in the past I'm a senior now and I have one best friend who has been there for me in all my years of moving around and nobody will ever be able to replace her. In the school of Centerville I've made and lost friends which thought me don't make friends. But in all the rules I have I've broken the most important of all. 2. never fall in love. I met the love of my life when I moved to Centerville I didn't know he and I would ever feel this way about each other but my junior year it happened and now we cant stand to be away from each other, he's been there with me through some rough times with the family and other people. He's my best friend I'm not sure what I'd be able to do without him in my life. He seems to be the only person I can really talk to about things like college and my future. Id like to be able to talk to my mother about this stuff but it will never happen. My mother and I have no relationship she doesn't trust me and I don't trust her. I know your mother is suppose to be your parent and best friend but I guess since we've moved around a lot I've shut everyone out and just didn't care anymore. I use to being on my own so it doesn't bother me that my mother thinks I'm a dead beat child, or whatever. I've pushed myself threw the hard times in life and all I've ever counted on was myself and I've done great so far. I can't say much for my dad either he left me and my brothers thinking the girl he is with now is much more important than his own kids. But hey if that's what he wants that's fine with me I could care less. I also have no relationship with my father and I never really did when we lived under the same roof. So it doesn't bother me at all. It's always been me against the world and I still want to think it is but now its me and the love of my life (Miguel) against the world and I'd love to keep it that way forever.